Things summer parents/stepparents can do to prepare for the blended family experience.
- Biological parents should make time in their schedule's to hang out with their bio-children. As much as a child may like their stepparent, their summer visit is really about spending time with their biological parent.
- Biological and summer stepparents should plan "team building" activities to strengthen the blended family. These activities should be fun, encouraging and promote healthy family discussions.
- Biological parents should make sure that their children have?structured activities to do during the day. These activities may consist of camps, sports, groups, and summer school. Young children may attend a daycare.?
- Biological and summer stepparents should create a space for the child/children who will be staying in the home during summer. The 'space' may consist of ?a permanent summer cot/bed, a special drawer/closet and/or anything to show the child that they have a 'place' in the blended family. Giving the child their own space helps them feel like a member of the family.
- Biological and summer stepparents should get plenty of rest. First time summer stepparents will?discover?that parenting can be physically, emotionally and mentally exhausting. Getting the proper amounts of sleep will help parents maintain good physical and emotional health.
- Summer biological parents should collect any documents that are necessary for travel, to?maintain?the child's health and/or enroll the child in summer?programs/activities. These documents may include vaccination records, birth certificates, state or school issued identification/passport, health insurance cards and/or a? temporary power of attorney.
Things biological parents can do to prepare their children for the summer blended family experience.
- Custodial biological parents?should discuss summer living arrangements with the child.?Children may worry about not seeing their friends or being left "out of the loop" during?the summer. Parents can make provisions for the child to keep in touch with friends and family while they are away. Calm the child's apprehension about traveling by informing the child where he/she will stay, specifying the mode of travel (plane, boat, train, car) and determining the length of stay.
- Non-custodial biological?parents should increase communication with the child as the time to visit approaches. This is also?a good?time to discuss the?child's?hobbies and interests. Doing so will make it easier for summer biological parents to know what activities they should register their child for. Remind children who are apprehensive about leaving friends that they will be able to contact them?during their stay.
Things summer biological and stepparents can do to help children transition between homes.
- Inform the child of the household rules. Don't assume that because they are obedient and/or make good choices while in their custodial parent's home that they will?automatically?know what to do in your home. Informing the child of the household rules gives the child your standards for behavior and the tools to make healthy choices in your home.
- Give the child time to adjust. Don?t try to force them?to like?their stepparent or to instantly get involved with life in your household. A child may need time to?assess?their thoughts and feelings. They may also need time to adjust to household differences such as curfews and bedtimes.
- Create a living space for the child. Just as the child has a space in his/her own home that they can call their own; they need that for their?summer?home too.
- Provide structure/routine. Children that attend school?spend a lot of time in a structured environment. ?Participating in activities provides an?environment conducive to making friends. Making friends may help the child adjust to the summer living situation.?
Source: http://blendedfamilymoments.blogspot.com/2012/03/adjusting-to-summer-step-parenting.html
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